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Men with idiosyncratic attachment style cheat because of how idiosyncratic attachment style develops in infancy and childhood.
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I once met a married man named Bernard in his 40s who was a famous lawyer and very successful in his career. outwardly, he was an admirable character that many looked up to.
As a child, he had a troubled parent who neglected his needs and made him cry for hours while playing. This left him with a deep void that he learned to ignore.
As a 20-year-old, he met a woman he thought he would marry one day. But this woman ended up leaving him for someone older and more established than him. He was bitter about this initial experience, and never fully recovered.
At the age of 30 he chose a secure woman to marry who would be a secure base for him to reach great heights in his career.
By the time Bernard reached his 40s, he had a small army of acquaintances who admired him and wanted to learn from him, but no one who was close to him or really knew him.
that one held everyone at a distance, ensuring that they will always only admire him on his face, and never reveal him in truth.
Bernard went on many business trips alone and sat in airports for hours, feeling strangely isolated, forgetting that he had a wife and child at home.
He would feel empty without a constant barrage of admiration and adoration from other people. Some might call it a desperate need to provide.
One day, he found a much younger woman who was beautiful, innocent and ready to put him on a pedestal.
He couldn’t resist the opportunity to escape the loneliness he felt inside and began a long relationship with this beautiful young woman.
Eventually, his mistress got tired of him being a side piece who fulfilled only one role: to offer her constant admiration, so she broke off the relationship.
Bernard didn’t take it so well, and began stalking and abusing her, threatening to destroy her reputation and her son’s honor.
Unable to stop himself in this narcissistic rage, he went so far that the police arrested him, he had to serve a prison sentence, his career and family life were left in ruins.
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The Secret Reason Why Avoidant Men Cheat
So Bernard’s story is both a warning and a testimony to the reason why ordinary people are deceived.
This is because how the avoidant attachment style develops is that in infancy, the self-protective infant cries to be close to its caregivers.
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This cry was his natural and human way of activating his attachment system.
He activated it so many times and was endlessly ignored, and his emotional needs were dismissed as ‘manipulation’, he began to completely bypass his attachment system, as narcissists do.
instead of crying for intimacy and growth, it was desperate. He still explored at times, but he carried a keen sense of loneliness that he wasn’t aware of.
After a while, the binoculars stop meeting your needs. So instead of activating their attachment system and seeking intimacy, they seek superficial relationships.
Short-Term Happiness: The perfect combination
Innovation and short-term gratification become a stand-in for real intimacy. It’s like eating sweets instead of dinner every day for decades, not realizing that your body is never getting any real nutritional value.
Deception is the compulsion of avoiders because they fail to realize that what they really need is true intimacy.
Instead, they seek attention through service innovation.
In fact it is not only that, it is a fact that they do not even know that there is a value of intimacy. There is only the value of distraction from their past that attracts them.
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Renee is the founder of The Feminine Woman and co-founder of Shen Wade Media where we teach women how to be a woman of high value who easily inspires deep emotional commitment from her chosen man. She graduated with a Bachelor of Law and a Bachelor of Arts in sociology and psychology. She has been a dating and relationship coach for women for the past 15 years and with her partner D. Shen at the Commitment Triggers blog, they have positively impacted the lives of over 20 million women through their articles and videos as well as 10,000 paid programs through the Shen Wade Media platform.
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