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Have you ever noticed that when someone starts to withdraw, you suddenly want them more?
They may take a long time to respond. Their texts become shorter. Or they don’t plan to see you again. Nothing has really happened, but you can feel that something has changed.
And suddenly, the person you were still obsessed with becomes the person you can’t stop thinking about.
Before you know it, the question of “Do I really want this person?” from “How can I make them want me again?”
Why does that change happen? And why does not knowing where you stand feel even more painful than your rejection?
In this week’s video, I explain what’s really going on in these moments, and I sit down with Gabby Bernstein to talk about why distance can trigger such a strong reaction in us, and how to stop it from taking hold.
Because sometimes, the person holding back isn’t the real reason it hurts so much.