Solutions To Help Parents - WeConcile

Last updated on August 14, 2026 at 10:39 am

Self Support Helps Our Parents

How does a strong supportive relationship help our children? What happens to our children when our relationships are strained. How do we get the support we need to be better parents? What are some positive parenting solutions?

I watched The Silent Girl some time ago. It was a beautiful depiction of how children respond to love, how much they need it, and how it affects their mood and well-being.

While specific skills like having good boundaries and being consistent are important when parenting, what is even more important is who we are and how we live our lives because our children will learn as much as we do and from what we do.

In order to be a grounded and effective parent, a balance is necessary: providing for our children and protecting ourselves. If you are out of balance, it will be much more difficult for your children. On the other hand, if you don’t take care of yourself, you may be there for your children, but to the extent that there is nothing left for you.

How do we maintain this balance? What are some positive parenting solutions?

Have a mindfulness practice, such as meditation, so that you are aware of your thoughts and how they affect the quality of your life. And so you can start changing them.

Take care of yourself. This includes taking time to do things you enjoy, whether it’s a bath, a walk, or talking to a friend.

Work on your relationship. Relationship stressors affect our ability to be present, patient, and compassionate—thus affecting our ability to parent effectively. Just as children need parents who are loving, understanding, consistent and patient, parents need partners who can support them in the same way. When we feel supported in our primary relationships, we are less stressed. As a result, we feel more emotionally secure. This allows us to pay more attention to the needs of our children.

Focus on appreciation and gratitude. When we are grounded and feel appreciation and gratitude in our lives, we can more easily affirm and appreciate our children. We can more easily support them and accept them as they are. And when we can be in a state of appreciation, we will be less stressed and more positive. You can read here The Practice of Gratitude is a Choice.

Here’s a quick meditation idea: Close your eyes. Rest for a moment. Post all your worries and problems. Enter your heart. Think back to when your child was little. Remember your love for them. Now imagine them. They know that they have their own struggle. In your heart, tell them how much you love them. Find your section that reviews them. Tell them that no matter how hard life can be or how hard raising them can be, you are so glad they are a part of your life.

Look for what you learn. Many times our children are our teachers. They learn from us, but we can also learn from them. You may have a child who is particularly sensitive or has a disability. What can you learn from this child? Ask yourself what is required of you, how you are required to grow or stretch. Your children have something to teach you. It may be patience, persistence or greater love, self-acceptance, or standing up for yourself. Look at your child as your teacher. Ask yourself, what is this teaching me in my life? Express your gratitude for teaching, even if it is difficult. Send your thanks to your child who is your teacher.

Another challenge of parenting is how we influence our children with our negative parts. So, for example, let’s say a young girl got pregnant and had an abortion. But because her belief system told her she was terrible, she was deeply ashamed. Years later, when she was married with children who were now teenagers, she watched them like wolves. She installed cameras in her home and tracking devices on the cars she drives. As a result, there was no trust between her and her children. They start talking to their parents about their needs, fears and desires instead. Parenting from the inside outwritten by Dan Siegel and Mary Hartzell, explores how our childhood experiences shape how we parent our children – I highly recommend it. You can see Parenting from the inside out on Amazon here.

Parents need many things that children need.

To love and be loved and feel valued
Understanding and empathy
Compatibility and structure
Patience and flexibility
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Here is a link My Mother is Passing – a blog post I wrote about my relationship with my mother on my personal blog – Jennifer’s Blog.

You can find other articles about relationships on the WeConcile Blog.