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The narcissist can’t take the blame for their own actions, so they project it all onto someone else, usually their closest relationships. Since it is your responsibility to take care of the narcissist, and they expect their life to be perfect, when things aren’t perfect, you as the caregiver should take the blame. You know about the lies, but it’s your fault that you’re looking for it. You questioned the reason and lack of empathy for others, but it’s your fault for asking. And you didn’t protect the image they were trying to present to the world.
Narcissists are not always bad, so we may be married to one for many, many years before realizing the truth. These heightened expectations and tactics should be red flags, but often we rationalize a quick escape route and lose. This is why my ministry counsels Christian women to survive and thrive after divorce – due to abuse, addiction, and/or adultery.
Can Christians be narcissists? I answered that question in this video on my YouTube channel.
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Doug Johnson knew his drinking had gone bad. Bottles of whiskey were missing on the weekends, spending around $1,000 a month on alcohol, Everclear mixed into sweet tea, and drinking at 10am. But he still wasn’t ready to admit it was a problem.
Then came “the look” – the moment his wife, Abby, looked at him and seemed to have lost all hope after making one request: don’t get drunk. She needed to know that their children would be safe while she was gone. Despite his promise, he could see that she felt him blushing.
In the end, he couldn’t help but listen. And she started on a path not for stubbornness, but for Jesus in a new way.
In this episode, Doug joins Jon Seidl to talk about the anger, loneliness, and aimlessness that alcohol helped him call his “medicine”; how drugs affected his marriage to celebrity attorney Abby Johnson; his faith; why he believes vigilantism has become an act of selfless love; and what was needed to rebuild trust.
Five years after his last drink, Doug explains why freedom was ultimately not about replacing alcohol with anything else, but about total surrender at the feet of Jesus. If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, share or subscribe to this podcast Confessions of Christian Alcoholics at the The night or Spotify so you never miss a part!
Only Grice Is a Relationship Counselor and Christian Empowerment Coach, author of the book, You Can Survive Divorce: Hope, Healing and Encouragement for Your Journey, speaker, and single homeschooling mom. She writes full-time at JenGrice.com and empowers women to live and heal on her YouTube channel. Jen believes that through God’s healing, grace and deliverance, all Christian women can survive…and even, after divorce, thrive. Traveling to this foreign land we call divorce? Feeling alone? Start here!
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