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Desires are hidden, and corrections can develop without you even realizing it’s happening. Suddenly, your mind is spinning on the thing, and it doesn’t seem to stop. It goes round and round. Some of the things our brain craves are easy enough to do—another coffee, that fourth cookie. Some things, like public humiliation, are not so easy to come by.
Even if a public humiliation isn’t as easily accomplished as that cup of coffee, we can still love it, heal it, and seek it out. Sometimes the fact that something is so difficult makes us want more of it. Today’s column comes courtesy of a reader who craves public humiliation…and is confused as to why it’s so hard to come by. Will they ever get a chance to fulfill their dream? Dirty Talk’s Advice Column has the answers!
“I have a long-standing fantasy of being watched by a woman while I’m naked at home and my face is visible. The woman watching is either in public or if she’s at home there are other people in the house. My fetish focuses on the risk of others seeing me – that her laptop is seen in public or her roommates are better seen so they can act on me if they can watch me.
This is my biggest dream EVER. I’m really struggling with how to make it a reality. No one has ever been a volunteer. How do I ask women if they might be interested in doing something like this? I really like insults and risks, but it seems that no one is interested in exploring this with me!” – Please laugh with me
Confusion begets Confusion
Fetishes can be healing, and the more complex the fetish, the more difficult it is to achieve it successfully. The desire to humiliate people is actually very common, you are not alone in your desire, Laugh at Me. What makes your fetish more difficult than one for cleaning boots or dog ears is that it requires many participants to make it work. Can you try more people and add something? The more complicated it gets. Have you ever tried to schedule a lunch date with four people? It’s impossible!
Do you find a partner interested in watching you bang on cam? You need a watch that is enough to attract your attention and the situation goes with it. It is difficult, but certainly not impossible. If that was your total fantasy, you’d have a better chance of making it come true. But your fantasy is much more complicated than that.
Legal Risks
Why are you now facing a 100% failure rate for your public shaming exercise? Because a woman who watches needs to risk arrest, possibly being placed on a sex offender registry, her roommates asking her to move out or losing her friends. While you may not have thought about the possible consequences of your fantasy, they are.
Unless everyone in the public place where this woman is watching you get laid, unless her roommates all have a mutual fetish for laughing at masturbating men or she has very open friends who like watching porn cams with her, you’re asking her to take a lot of risk to watch you. That’s why he hasn’t had the luck to humiliate the people so far.
Is there a woman out there who might be perfectly comfortable watching your Stoke stay on her laptop in the hope of seeing others? Amin. Of course. But anyone willing enough to risk arrest for a wank session is probably someone you should contact in general. They surf on the sharp side of life, and often the ones that are sharp have some serious injury and can leave you without food.
Your options
However, there are a few ways you can do this trick if you want to change it up a bit, though! You can always look for a partner who is willing to talk to a cam session as if their hot friends are in the other room and can pop into the room at any moment. You can hire professionals to do it under controlled conditions. You can write erotically how you would imagine it to be. You can attend insult classes and join insult chat groups to see if anyone else might be interested in you.
But whatever you do, don’t get a criminal record. This particular fantasy has a higher chance of going sideways than most, and should be approached with caution. Good luck and may you get the red chips you want!
Keep It Kinky My Friends,
GDR
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